90/10 Principle: Let Happiness Be At Hand

 Many things happen in our life, which we have no chance to control. The problem is that we read about those events all day long, knowing that we have no control over them. And so life is not always happy, we cannot be happy. There is an excellent formula to prevent this type of incident from happening again.

The name of the formula is the '90/10 Principle. Discovered by a gentleman named Stephen Covey. He has shown her how to subdue the small uncontrolled bad events of life with positive energy. He tried to convey the whole idea through a story.

Let's tell the story.

A small family. Father, mother, and a little girl. They are having breakfast one morning. The little girl accidentally drops the cup of tea on her father's ironed shirt. Father is angry fire! He scolded his daughter severely, and scolded his wife, why did he put the teacup on the edge of the table? The Ahmadi girl cried loudly after being scolded. After a while, the father changed his shirt and saw that his daughter was still crying, she had not even finished eating. He further abused the girl. The girl started crying more and more.

Meanwhile, the girl's school bus also left. Now the father has to deliver to the school. Thinking of this, father got angry. He was fined for driving faster than normal on the way to drop his daughter at school. The girl who does not enter school without saying goodbye to her father every day, that girl ran to school today without saying goodbye to her father. He reached the office 15 minutes late. He noticed that he had forgotten to bring the office briefcase in his haste.

Now more danger, the office boss riding on him. The day began to take a turn for the worse. Office work was not done properly. He came home after work at night and saw that the girl was asleep. But the other day, the daughter actually ran before the father and hugged the father, asking "Dad, what have you brought for me?" He didn't come today. His wife is also very silent today. He ate alone. Then fell asleep. The day has gone bad, and now the night too. Thus a distance was created between the family.

But if the story was like this, the little girl accidentally dropped the cup of tea. When he started to cry out of fear and regret, his father stopped him and said - "Stop, no problem." I have also spilled tea on my father many times. But yeah, be careful from now on, okay?” The girl smiled a little and said - "Well, father, it won't happen anymore".

The girl then went to school. Dad arrived at the office 5 minutes early after arranging everything nicely. The office boss praised his work. After working all day in the office, when the girl came home at night, she ran and hugged her father, and started eating the chocolates brought by her father one by one. The whole family had dinner with laughter and joy. A happy and beautiful family was seen.

 The day went very well, didn't it?

There is a huge difference between the first story and the last story. In the first story, the whole day went bad for the whole family because of the father's mood. And the next story turned out to be pretty easy, only the father kept his temper, that's why. Stephen Covey said - the first incident was all the father's fault. Because, 10% of the events that happen in our lives, like a falling teacup, are events that we have no control over. But what will be our reaction to those 10% unintentional events, the remaining 90% of events will not go well.

In the first story, the father 10% thought about the event, reacting negatively. The result? is a bad day In the second story, the father reacts positively by assuming that 10% of events are uncontrollable. The result? End of a good day.

Many times in our life there are many incidents in which we have no hand in causing many problems. Let's say, you are going to give a presentation in a suit and boots, suddenly a crow from above does natural work on your black suit. Now that you can't attack the crow anymore, you have to accept that and find a way to clean the suit.

Only then the day will go to good instead of bad.

Many such examples can be given. The truth is, your happiness, and your success is all up to you. You can change these if you want. You will actually control the happiness of your life.